so the saddest shortest story is attributed to hemingway:
"For sale: baby shoes, never worn."
and this came to me at breakfast and i thought it was hilarious.
btw if you have never read northanger abbey seriously pick it up its fucking hilarious
Everyone always needs to see fuzzy bats being adorable. ALWAYS.
Happy 79th birthday to the marvellous, musical and majestic Julie Andrews (born 1 October 1935)!
A great addition to your garden or back yard. - Bee watering station.
Bees need water just like we do but often times drown in open water. To make a bee watering station you can either do what is shown in the photo above and fill the bowl of a dog/cat watering jug with stones or you can fill a small dish with marbles and add water to that. That way the bees have something to land on!
First post to get this many notes, and I’m so glad it’s this one. ^_^
No fuck bees kill them all
Kill all bees huh? Bees are responsible for pollinating around 80% of agriculture. Bees die, you die. Do research and get over your fears.
bees are so important save the bees
That is very much the show I watched.
It sounds ridiculous when I say it out loud: I wasn’t allowed to eat the bread.
Because how do you, honestly, forbid a grown human being from eating bread? But he did.
He would buy one loaf of bread every week and if I ate any of it he would start a fight about how now there wasn’t enough left for his sandwiches for his lunch for work. If I wanted to buy more than one loaf of bread, he would tell me that we wouldn’t eat it all and it would go bad.
Everything I liked to eat, he would find fault with, slowly over the course of the years we lived together, until there were only two or three things I could actually buy without causing a scene in the grocery store, and I would get bored of those things over the week before he would let me go grocery shopping again, but I would eat them anyway, or I would if he didn’t always get to them first.
It got to the point where at least 75% of our grocery purchases were explicitly for him and I generally didn’t eat more than two meals a day because we weren’t buying enough food. We couldn’t afford more, not without cutting into his hobby budget, and I did not have a say in that expense.
And I kept gaining weight, because I was on a form of birth control that made me gain weight, and he kept telling me to just eat less because we couldn’t afford to buy me clothing that fit. Then he would tell me that he wasn’t attracted to me anymore because of the changes in my body. So I would wonder why the fuck I was on birth control in the first place if I was never getting laid.
There are people who will tell you that dwelling on a past relationship means you’re not really over that person, that even if it’s manifesting as anger you’re still carrying that torch, but I think those people are wrong. I think it’s entirely possible to be 100% completely over him but not be over what he did to me. I lived this way for almost seven years. If I wanted anything for myself, anything at all right down to proper nutrition and pants I could actually pull up over my ass, I had to sneak it somehow.
Do you know what that does to a person? Some of you do.
When I was a kid I was incredibly responsible with my money. Now I’m terrible with it. It’s because of what he did. It’s because I can’t shake the feeling that if I don’t gather to myself whatever that money can buy right now, I won’t ever get the chance and the money will go away.
I consider myself lucky that he didn’t permanently destroy my relationship with food as well.
Anonymous said: What are the signs of emotional abuse?
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
sometimes i think about the freshman dude who was in my womens lit class to pick up chicks and in the second week expressed his ~opinion~ that a woman could never be president and then wound up dropping the class
like i cant honestly fathom being the only woman in a room full of men and telling them something i know would make them that angry like i just cant even imagine
thats what privilege looks like
and privilege also looks like his ability to drop that class and choose never to put himself in that situation again when marginalized people have no choice but to navigate oppressor-dominated spaces every day just to go about our lives
and then sometimes i also think about how if that dude had just been willing to sit in that space and shut up and listen and not make it all about him, how much he could have learned
if you believe men can and should call themselves “feminists” you are not going to like my blog. at all.